{"id":29720,"date":"2024-08-12T14:29:51","date_gmt":"2024-08-12T20:29:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/stories\/mon-sourire-nest-plus-mon-bouclier\/"},"modified":"2024-08-12T14:29:51","modified_gmt":"2024-08-12T20:29:51","slug":"mon-sourire-nest-plus-mon-bouclier","status":"publish","type":"stories","link":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/mon-sourire-nest-plus-mon-bouclier\/","title":{"rendered":"Mon sourire n&rsquo;est plus mon bouclier"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Le sourire \u00e9tait mon m\u00e9canisme d&rsquo;adaptation, car les gens n&rsquo;ont pas tendance \u00e0 demander \u00e0 une personne souriante \u00ab\u00a0Qu&rsquo;est-ce qui ne va pas ?\u00a0\u00bb. Je me suis longtemps cach\u00e9e derri\u00e8re mon sourire, <a href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/guerir\/la-honte\/\">honteuse<\/a> de ce qui m&rsquo;\u00e9tait arriv\u00e9. Je pensais que si je l&rsquo;ignorais, cela n&rsquo;arriverait jamais ; mais mon c\u0153ur \u00e9tait bris\u00e9 et je devais y faire face.  <\/p>\n\n<p>Je m&rsquo;\u00e9tais toujours fait des illusions en m&rsquo;attendant au pire, parce que tout ce qui d\u00e9passe le sc\u00e9nario catastrophe que vous venez de construire dans votre t\u00eate sera un plus. N&rsquo;est-ce pas ? Je me suis expos\u00e9e \u00e0 plus de mal que de bien en utilisant mon traumatisme comme base de r\u00e9f\u00e9rence. Se faire crier dessus pour quelque chose que je n&rsquo;ai pas fait n&rsquo;est pas aussi grave que mon traumatisme, mais ce n&rsquo;est pas non plus une bonne chose. Je devais trouver le courage de me d\u00e9fendre.     <\/p>\n\n<p>Mon fr\u00e8re m&rsquo;a encourag\u00e9e \u00e0 demander de l&rsquo;aide \u00e0 la <a href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/saprea-retreat?utm_source=survivor_stories&amp;utm_medium=website&amp;utm_campaign=internal_link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">retraite<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/saprea-retreat?utm_source=survivor_stories&amp;utm_medium=website&amp;utm_campaign=internal_link\">Saprea<\/a> et m&rsquo;a presque emp\u00each\u00e9e de refuser, car je m&rsquo;\u00e9tais convaincue que j&rsquo;allais bien puisque j&rsquo;\u00e9tais une personne qui avait r\u00e9ussi dans la soci\u00e9t\u00e9. Il savait que je devais vraiment l\u00e2cher prise et je lui suis \u00e9ternellement reconnaissante de m&rsquo;avoir connue mieux que je ne me connaissais moi-m\u00eame. Mon voyage a commenc\u00e9 lors de cette retraite et je suis revigor\u00e9e par les le\u00e7ons de la vie.   <\/p>\n\n<p>J&rsquo;ai \u00e9t\u00e9 choqu\u00e9e de voir \u00e0 quel point quatre jours peuvent sembler si courts, mais avoir un impact si durable. Aller dans un endroit avec d&rsquo;autres \u00e9trangers semblait intimidant, mais j&rsquo;y suis all\u00e9e. Je me suis inscrite \u00e0 tout ce qu&rsquo;ils proposaient et je m&rsquo;attendais \u00e0 ce que de nombreuses s\u00e9ances de pleurs surprises soient ajout\u00e9es au programme \u00e0 mon arriv\u00e9e, mais j&rsquo;ai \u00e9t\u00e9 tellement soulag\u00e9e lorsque je suis arriv\u00e9e et que j&rsquo;ai \u00e9t\u00e9 imm\u00e9diatement mise \u00e0 l&rsquo;aise avec les montagnes relaxantes, l&rsquo;immense pavillon entour\u00e9 de lacs, de ruisseaux et tout simplement la paix (pas de s\u00e9ances de pleurs du tout).   <\/p>\n\n<p>La partie que j&rsquo;ai pr\u00e9f\u00e9r\u00e9e a \u00e9t\u00e9 le journal d&rsquo;art. J&rsquo;ai appris \u00e0 renouer avec un c\u00f4t\u00e9 artistique que j&rsquo;avais perdu dans mon enfance ; je dessine, je peins et je construis plus que jamais. J&rsquo;ai rencontr\u00e9 certains des survivantes les plus extraordinaires que l&rsquo;on puisse r\u00eaver de rencontrer et je suis toujours amie avec elles. J&rsquo;ai trouv\u00e9 du courage, de la force, du pardon et de la motivation en moi pendant la retraite. Je suis digne et je me suffis \u00e0 moi-m\u00eame. Deux ans plus tard, je continue \u00e0 devenir plus forte et \u00e0 aider autant de survivantes que possible.      <\/p>\n\n<p>Je souris maintenant, non pas pour me cacher, mais pour la premi\u00e8re fois depuis longtemps. Mais pour la premi\u00e8re fois depuis longtemps, je suis vraiment heureuse avec moi-m\u00eame et avec la direction que je prends dans la vie. Je ne suis plus une victime, mais une survivante forte.   <\/p>\n\n<p>-Margaret, survivante <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Melanie est une survivante d&rsquo;abus sexuels subis dans l&rsquo;enfance qui a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea. 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