{"id":28923,"date":"2024-07-23T16:18:45","date_gmt":"2024-07-23T22:18:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/stories\/jai-vecu-dans-une-spirale-de-honte-perpetuelle\/"},"modified":"2024-07-23T16:18:45","modified_gmt":"2024-07-23T22:18:45","slug":"jai-vecu-dans-une-spirale-de-honte-perpetuelle","status":"publish","type":"stories","link":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-vecu-dans-une-spirale-de-honte-perpetuelle\/","title":{"rendered":"J&rsquo;ai v\u00e9cu dans une spirale de honte perp\u00e9tuelle"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Comme quatre-vingt-dix pour cent des survivants d&rsquo;abus, j&rsquo;ai \u00e9t\u00e9 abus\u00e9e sexuellement par un membre de ma famille en qui j&rsquo;avais confiance pendant plusieurs ann\u00e9es. Lorsque l&rsquo;abus a \u00e9t\u00e9 r\u00e9v\u00e9l\u00e9, les responsables de l&rsquo;\u00e9glise ont dit \u00e0 ma m\u00e8re qu&rsquo;elle devait pardonner \u00e0 l&rsquo;agresseur et que nous ne devions pas en parler. La <a href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/guerir\/la-honte\/?utm_source=stories&amp;utm_medium=shame&amp;utm_campaign=english\">honte<\/a> de l&rsquo;abus et le silence auquel j&rsquo;ai \u00e9t\u00e9 contrainte ont \u00e9t\u00e9 un poids lourd \u00e0 porter pour une jeune fille.   <\/p>\n\n<p>J&rsquo;ai continu\u00e9 \u00e0 vivre une vie terne, faite d&rsquo;\u00e9checs in\u00e9vitables. J&rsquo;ai toujours eu l&rsquo;impression d&rsquo;\u00eatre une marchandise endommag\u00e9e et que si les gens connaissaient mon pass\u00e9, ils auraient moins d&rsquo;estime pour moi. Je vivais dans une spirale perp\u00e9tuelle de honte, voulant toujours faire et \u00eatre plus, mais sentant mentalement que je ne m\u00e9ritais pas plus que ma vie m\u00e9diocre.  <\/p>\n\n<p>En 2009, j&rsquo;ai fait quelque chose qui a chang\u00e9 toute ma vie : j&rsquo;ai couru un marathon. Pendant les neuf ann\u00e9es qui ont suivi, j&rsquo;ai cru que c&rsquo;\u00e9tait la course elle-m\u00eame qui \u00e9tait \u00e0 l&rsquo;origine du changement durable. Je me suis sortie d&rsquo;une situation tr\u00e8s difficile o\u00f9 j&rsquo;\u00e9tais pratiquement sans abri, sans pouvoir m&rsquo;occuper de mon fils autiste, et j&rsquo;ai chang\u00e9 de vie. Je suis retourn\u00e9e \u00e0 l&rsquo;universit\u00e9 et j&rsquo;ai finalement obtenu mon dipl\u00f4me en 2013. Je me suis sentie forte et capable de voler de mes propres ailes.     <\/p>\n\n<p>Mais lorsque j&rsquo;ai particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la <a href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/saprea-retreat?utm_source=survivor_stories&amp;utm_medium=website&amp;utm_campaign=internal_link\">retraite Saprea<\/a> en mars 2018, j&rsquo;ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que le marathon, bien qu&rsquo;il soit un exploit incroyable, n&rsquo;\u00e9tait PAS ce qui avait vraiment allum\u00e9 ma flamme int\u00e9rieure. C&rsquo;\u00e9tait le sentiment de CONTR\u00d4LE que j&rsquo;avais enfin sur mon moi, mon corps et ma vie. Je me suis sentie autonome, forte et, franchement, en col\u00e8re d&rsquo;avoir port\u00e9 tant de honte toute ma vie. J&rsquo;\u00e9tais d\u00e9termin\u00e9e \u00e0 devenir la meilleure version de moi-m\u00eame et \u00e0 utiliser mes anciennes difficult\u00e9s comme des forces pour transformer mes faiblesses et moi-m\u00eame en guerriere.    <\/p>\n\n<p>Mon exp\u00e9rience \u00e0 la retraite Saprea a \u00e9t\u00e9 extraordinaire. Le personnel nous a trait\u00e9es avec beaucoup de gentillesse et de respect, les activit\u00e9s \u00e9taient curatives et th\u00e9rapeutiques, et les liens avec toutes les autres femmes \u00e9taient inestimables. J&rsquo;aurais aim\u00e9 le faire plus t\u00f4t et j&rsquo;aimerais pouvoir le refaire. Le travail qu&rsquo;elles accomplissent pour aider les victimes d&rsquo;abus est vraiment extraordinaire.    <\/p>\n\n<p>Aujourd&rsquo;hui, j&rsquo;interviens aupr\u00e8s d&rsquo;organisations pour les aider \u00e0 trouver leur force int\u00e9rieure. Je partage ouvertement mon histoire et j&rsquo;encourage les autres \u00e0 accepter la leur, en reconnaissant que leurs exp\u00e9riences, bonnes ou mauvaises, les rendent exceptionnellement extraordinaires. Plus nous en parlons, plus nous gu\u00e9rissons et plus nous pouvons travailler \u00e0 d\u00e9fendre l&rsquo;innocence.   <\/p>\n\n<p>-Stacy, survivante <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Stacy est une survivante d&rsquo;abus sexuels subis dans l&rsquo;enfance qui a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea. 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