{"id":28756,"date":"2024-07-23T12:35:24","date_gmt":"2024-07-23T18:35:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/"},"modified":"2024-07-23T12:35:24","modified_gmt":"2024-07-23T18:35:24","slug":"jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert","status":"publish","type":"stories","link":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/","title":{"rendered":"J’ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Mon agresseur est d\u00e9c\u00e9d\u00e9 en 2012, ce qui a entra\u00een\u00e9 une s\u00e9rie d’\u00e9v\u00e9nements qui m’ont oblig\u00e9e \u00e0 prendre conscience de la fa\u00e7on dont je vivais ma vie. J’avais ferm\u00e9 les yeux sur les abus que j’avais subis. J’ai refus\u00e9 de le reconna\u00eetre ou d’en parler. J’avais r\u00e9ussi. Je m’\u00e9tais promis que cela n’aurait jamais d’impact sur ma vie. Que je ne serais pas une \u00ab\u00a0statistique\u00a0\u00bb. Je d\u00e9testais le mot \u00ab\u00a0survivante\u00a0\u00bb. Je me suis toujours demand\u00e9 pourquoi les gens s’appelaient ainsi. <\/p>\n\n

J’ai surv\u00e9cu, mais je n’ai pas v\u00e9cu. <\/p>\n\n

En 2014, j’ai entam\u00e9 mon parcours de gu\u00e9rison. \u00c0 l’\u00e9poque, je ne me rendais pas compte de l’impact que mes abus avaient eu sur ma vie. Pourquoi je travaillais autant. Pourquoi je trouvais les relations et l’intimit\u00e9 difficiles<\/a>. Je m’\u00e9tais renferm\u00e9e sur moi-m\u00eame. Le vrai moi. Mon \u00e2me. <\/p>\n\n

Je me consacrais \u00e0 mon bien-\u00eatre. En tant que coach, chef d’entreprise et personne qui a toujours cru en la croissance, j’allais toujours de l’avant. J’ai gu\u00e9ri, j’ai grandi et j’ai chang\u00e9 ma vie. Je me suis trouv\u00e9e. <\/p>\n\n

Mais il manquait encore quelque chose. Je me prot\u00e9geais encore, je ne partageais pas mon histoire, je m’accrochais \u00e0 la honte<\/a> que cela m’\u00e9tait arriv\u00e9, que cela m’avait bris\u00e9e, que cela m’avait co\u00fbt\u00e9 une grande partie de ma vie. Je voulais encore contr\u00f4ler l’histoire. <\/p>\n\n

Je ne m’identifiais pas aux groupes de survivants, je n’en parlais toujours pas, m\u00eame si je disposais d’une plateforme publique avec mon entreprise et mes blogs. <\/p>\n\n

Malgr\u00e9 tout le travail que j’avais accompli, il me manquait encore des pi\u00e8ces, j’\u00e9tais encore dans le brouillard c\u00e9r\u00e9bral, je me dissociais encore, je n’\u00e9tais toujours pas \u00e0 l’aise avec le fait d’\u00eatre connue pour cela. <\/p>\n\n

La d\u00e9couverte de la retraite<\/a> Saprea<\/a> est arriv\u00e9e au bon moment pour moi. Je savais que je devais le faire, travailler avec des personnes qui comprenaient sp\u00e9cifiquement les abus sexuels. Je savais que je devais me montrer au grand jour et cesser de me cacher, de contr\u00f4ler qui savait et comment il savait. <\/p>\n\n

Il \u00e9tait temps que je m’approprie mon histoire pour qu’elle ne me poss\u00e8de plus. Et je suis heureuse de dire que les choses que j’ai apprises lors de la retraite ont chang\u00e9 ma vie. Ce que j’ai appris sur le cerveau et les traumatismes m’a permis d’admettre enfin que les abus que j’avais subis m’avaient chang\u00e9e, avaient chang\u00e9 ma vie et mes r\u00e9actions. <\/p>\n\n

Je ne voulais pas de cette histoire. Je ne voulais pas qu’elle ait un pouvoir sur ma vie. Mais c’est en l’ignorant et en la niant que je lui ai donn\u00e9 du pouvoir, et non en l’affrontant. L’affronter, la comprendre, apprendre d\u2019elle et la regarder en face – poss\u00e9der cette partie de moi et de ma vie – m’a aid\u00e9e \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir plus que je ne saurais le dire. <\/p>\n\n

Les personnes que j’ai rencontr\u00e9es l\u00e0-bas seront des amies pour la vie. Merci pour ce que vous faites. Alors que j’avais d\u00e9j\u00e0 fait beaucoup de travail, cette retraite m’a vraiment aid\u00e9e d’une mani\u00e8re inattendue, elle m’a aid\u00e9e \u00e0 reconstituer mon puzzle. <\/p>\n\n

Je vous en suis \u00e9ternellement reconnaissante. <\/p>\n\n

-Tonya, survivante <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Tonya est une survivante d’abus sexuels subis dans l’enfance qui a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea. Voici son histoire. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":18655,"template":"","categories":[73],"class_list":["post-28756","stories","type-stories","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-honte"],"yoast_head":"\nJ'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"fr_FR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"J'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Saprea\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/facebook.com\/saprea.org\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"500\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"500\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@saprea_org\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Dur\u00e9e de lecture estim\u00e9e\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\\\/\\\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/\",\"name\":\"J'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2023\\\/09\\\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg\",\"datePublished\":\"2024-07-23T18:35:24+00:00\",\"description\":\"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2023\\\/09\\\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2023\\\/09\\\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg\",\"width\":500,\"height\":500},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/stories\\\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\\\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/page-daccueil-saprea\\\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"J’ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/\",\"name\":\"Saprea\",\"description\":\"\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Saprea\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/logo\\\/image\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2021\\\/12\\\/Vector-7-1.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2021\\\/12\\\/Vector-7-1.png\",\"width\":106,\"height\":105,\"caption\":\"Saprea\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/saprea.org\\\/fr\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/logo\\\/image\\\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/facebook.com\\\/saprea.org\",\"https:\\\/\\\/x.com\\\/saprea_org\",\"https:\\\/\\\/instagram.com\\\/youniquefoundation\",\"https:\\\/\\\/pinterest.com\\\/saprea_org\",\"https:\\\/\\\/youtube.com\\\/c\\\/saprea_org\"]}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"J'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea","description":"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/","og_locale":"fr_FR","og_type":"article","og_title":"J'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea","og_description":"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.","og_url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/","og_site_name":"Saprea","article_publisher":"https:\/\/facebook.com\/saprea.org","og_image":[{"width":500,"height":500,"url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_site":"@saprea_org","twitter_misc":{"Dur\u00e9e de lecture estim\u00e9e":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/","url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/","name":"J'ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert | Saprea","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg","datePublished":"2024-07-23T18:35:24+00:00","description":"Tonya, survivante d'abus sexuels, a trouv\u00e9 la force d'arr\u00eater de se cacher quand elle a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 la retraite Saprea et a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 gu\u00e9rir.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"fr-FR","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"fr-FR","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/I-Had-to-Stand-Out-in-the-Open-and-Stop-Hiding.jpeg","width":500,"height":500},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/stories\/jai-du-me-mettre-a-decouvert\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/page-daccueil-saprea\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"J’ai d\u00fb me mettre \u00e0 d\u00e9couvert"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#website","url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/","name":"Saprea","description":"","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"fr-FR"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#organization","name":"Saprea","url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"fr-FR","@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Vector-7-1.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Vector-7-1.png","width":106,"height":105,"caption":"Saprea"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/facebook.com\/saprea.org","https:\/\/x.com\/saprea_org","https:\/\/instagram.com\/youniquefoundation","https:\/\/pinterest.com\/saprea_org","https:\/\/youtube.com\/c\/saprea_org"]}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/stories\/28756","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/stories"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/stories"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/stories\/28756\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18655"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28756"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saprea.org\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28756"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}