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\u00a0\u00bb Ce n’\u00e9tait pas si grave.\u00a0\u00bb \u00a0\u00bb D’autres ont v\u00e9cu pire que moi.\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0J’ai une bonne vie, je devrais \u00eatre reconnaissante.\u00a0\u00bb \u00a0\u00bb Passe \u00e0 autre chose, tu n’a qu’\u00e0 l’enterrer \u00e0 nouveau. \u00a0\u00bb <\/p>\n\n

Voil\u00e0 ce que je me suis dit pendant de nombreuses ann\u00e9es \u00e0 propos de l’abus sexuel dont j’ai \u00e9t\u00e9 victime \u00e0 l’\u00e2ge de 4 ans. J’\u00e9tais tellement occup\u00e9e que je n’avais pas le temps d’y faire face. J’ai pu l’enfouir profond\u00e9ment, le garder cach\u00e9 pendant des d\u00e9cennies, jusqu’\u00e0 ce qu’une r\u00e9action en cha\u00eene d’\u00e9v\u00e9nements se produise qui m’a forc\u00e9e \u00e0 d\u00e9terrer ces souvenirs redoutables. <\/p>\n\n

Devenir m\u00e8re. D\u00e9couvrir la mission de mon entreprise. Entendre le r\u00e9cit d’autres survivants. Mais le facteur le plus important qui m’a finalement pouss\u00e9e \u00e0 agir a \u00e9t\u00e9 l’anniversaire de ma fille, qui f\u00eatait ses quatre ans. De vifs souvenirs m’ont envahie, la peur et la col\u00e8re dominaient chaque jour. Je ne pouvais m’emp\u00eacher de revivre le pass\u00e9 et j’avais l’impression que ma fille \u00e9tait condamn\u00e9e au m\u00eame sort que moi si je ne contr\u00f4lais pas ses moindres faits et gestes. Et son fr\u00e8re a\u00een\u00e9 – dans mon esprit, il \u00e9tait destin\u00e9 \u00e0 devenir un pr\u00e9dateur, simplement parce qu’il \u00e9tait un homme. Quel horrible cycle quotidien que de ne pas pouvoir profiter pleinement de ses enfants. Je devais changer les choses pour ma famille. Pour moi. <\/p>\n\n

En m’ouvrant et en faisant face \u00e0 mon pass\u00e9, je me suis retrouv\u00e9e entour\u00e9e d’amis, d’un th\u00e9rapeute, d’une \u00e9glise et de co\u00e9quipi\u00e8res qui m’ont aid\u00e9e \u00e0 comprendre que je m\u00e9ritais moi aussi l’espoir et le bonheur. L’abus n’est pas un concours pour savoir qui a souffert le plus, nous sommes TOUS dignes de gu\u00e9rir. <\/p>\n\n

Lors de la retraite de Saprea<\/a> en ao\u00fbt 2018, j’ai \u00e9t\u00e9 pr\u00e9sent\u00e9e \u00e0 un r\u00e9seau de femmes comme moi, les 1 sur 4 qui refusent de rester silencieuses. Les voix fortes qui feront changer les choses. Les femmes qui n’ont plus peur, mais qui vivent chaque jour avec courage et espoir. Des femmes qui se soutiennent mutuellement dans les jours difficiles et s’encouragent dans les victoires quotidiennes. Je ne les connaissais pas avant l’\u00e9t\u00e9 2018, mais j’ai maintenant l’impression de les conna\u00eetre depuis toujours. <\/p>\n\n

Nous avons eu diverses exp\u00e9riences de gu\u00e9rison et d’\u00e9ducation \u00e0 la retraite Saprea, comme le yoga, le Muay Thai, l’art et les cours \u00e9ducatifs. Le moment le plus marquant pour moi a \u00e9t\u00e9 d’apprendre ceci : les traumatismes de la petite enfance ont un impact sur le cerveau, et le d\u00e9veloppement du cerveau n’est pas termin\u00e9 avant le milieu de la vingtaine. Le cerveau se compose de deux parties principales : le syst\u00e8me limbique \u00e9motionnel et le cortex pr\u00e9frontal rationnel. Les traumatismes sexuels subis dans l’enfance font que le syst\u00e8me limbique fonctionne \u00e0 plein r\u00e9gime et \u00e9clipse souvent la partie logique de l’esprit. <\/p>\n\n

J’ai eu beaucoup de mal \u00e0 comprendre pourquoi je ressentais certaines choses dans mon coeur, alors que certains de mes actes de jeune adulte ne correspondaient pas \u00e0 mes valeurs et \u00e0 mes croyances. Apprendre que mon cerveau \u00e9tait c\u00e2bl\u00e9 pour r\u00e9agir \u00e9motionnellement plut\u00f4t que d’utiliser la pens\u00e9e rationnelle… ce fait m’a fait pleurer car il s’agissait d’une carte proverbiale de \u00ab\u00a0sortie de prison\u00a0\u00bb. Non pas que je ne me sente pas coupable et que je ne regrette pas certains de mes comportements, mais j’ai appris que tout n’\u00e9tait pas de ma faute. <\/p>\n\n

Ce parcours n’est rien d’autre que cela. Un parcours de toute une vie qui conna\u00eetra des hauts et des bas. Mais en 2018, gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 la retraite Saprea, je peux dire avec certitude que j’ai fait plus de progr\u00e8s que jamais. Un \u201cMerci\u201d ne suffit pas, et les mots ne pourront jamais exprimer toute ma gratitude. Pour montrer \u00e0 quel point je suis reconnaissante, j’utiliserai toujours ma voix et j’atteindrai d’autres personnes qui ont besoin de cette exp\u00e9rience de gu\u00e9rison, tout comme moi. <\/p>\n\n

-Keely, survivante <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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